You know that feeling where you pick up on someone’s energy, well cats are really really eerily good at that, and me and Casey discussed this super power as my kitties milled about waiting for this shoot. I think that magnetism came through in all the photos, like she couldn’t be happier to be in their company so they just couldn’t get enough of her. Sometimes its not even that cats sense that you’re a “cat person” or a “dog person” but more of an energy that you bring into the room. So as we chatted and got to know each other over hair and makeup I have a feeling the kitties were listening and became curious who this other furless person was getting to know their furless person (that’s how I think cat’s think about us, because to them furless is weird right?!)
After the shoot I fell in love all over again with how the black and white lingerie tattoos all blend together to let her smile and ink stand out. The addition of kitties is really just fuzzy icing on the cake. So without further ado I’m really excited to share these images of Casey:
My favorite cat coloring/patterns have always been calico & “tuxedo”. I love the diversity a calico cat portrays with combined coloring, and each calico cat’s pattern is unique. The classiness of a tuxedo colored cat with their white gloves is irresistible!
most cats live a pretty leisurely lifestyle you could say, what part of kitty living do you wish you could have as a human?
If I could have the lifestyle of a cat, I would definitely say I would wish to be able to bask in the warm sunlight in front of a window all day.
When a girl’s instagram handle is @Crazycatlady420 there is no doubt she is a cat lover, and all cat lovers have a good rescue story. You’ll have to read on for Neko’s story of what happened after she took in a malnourished little kitten she encountered on a walk home, and her thoughts on the best and worst parts of being a kitty, because you know we’ve all thought about what it would be like to not have thumbs amiright?!
favorite feline characteristic you would take on if you could?
Jumping and climbing things, reaching new horizons…knowing no boundaries! But equipped with the ability to get back down once I’ve had my share. Once I found my kitty Oreo standing on top of the damn door as if he were a panther, which he likes to prove alot apparently. His stance read “I came, I saw, I conquered” but his meow said “mom how the heck do I get down?”.
want to share a rescue, adopted, found kitty story?
I was in Spanish Harlem about two years ago when I heard a nearby meow, and of course I tried to follow after it. A few steps away, was a couple with a box that immediately recognized my curiosity and waved it in my face, asking if I wanted a cat their daughter could no longer care for. I politely turned it down since I already had one older cat, Sushi, and wasn’t sure how he would get along with another. Without hesitation, they told me they were going to specifically take her to a kill shelter and my heart dropped. How could someone do such a thing and on top of that, blatantly say it with no guilt? I know no cat should be in these peoples’ hands whether they meant it or not, I walked away with the cat.
Upon bringing her home, I realized how malnourished she was and could see her rib-cage. I spent the next month nursing her back to health with my mom and we named her Miso. After she gained reasonable weight, we saw her stomach was hanging unusually low and realized she was pregnant the whole time.
On my birthday, she gave birth to four healthy kittens all with different colors and markings. I didn’t expect to have six cats, but the best things in life are unexpected. It was fate that I rescued their mother that day and I’d hate to imagine if that never happened. Sushi took awhile to get used to the mother and even got a little weirded out by the babies but now they’re like a family. The kittens took quite a liking to him growing up, always licking him and rubbing against him! I personally think he likes being a father figure.
Have you always been a cat person?
Yes, I love their playful yet independent nature.
Are you a cat & dog person?
Yes, but I prefer cats.
Want to share a rescue, adopted, found kitty story?
My cat used to be a stray, but when he started coming to our house I would bring food for him outside. I would sit outside and play with him for hours no matter how cold it was until I finally convinced my parents to let us keep him.
Fluffy or short hair?
If you were a cat what would your catnip be?
Most cats live a pretty leisurely lifestyle you could say, what part of kitty living do you wish you could have as a human?
Getting enough sleep and having people feed me.
In a city like New York you can expect to meet a lot of interesting people with a wide range of careers and life stories, but I can honestly say that I have never met anyone like Arden.
With a background in neurolinguistic programming and a fascination and hunger for what makes the opposite sex tick she’s honed her seductive personality in a way that few women do. Seduction make no mistake is not just about sex, and no stranger to a dungeon Arden’s been there and done that, and lets be clear we’re not talking Shades of Grey. All those experiences paired with an innate insight into the female psyche have lent her a unique perspective on the subject of dating, and so its no surprise that her first foray into the world of publishing manifested itself in a book titled “The New Rules of Attraction”. Anyone who’s dated in NYC or watched Sex and the City won’t be surprised that a book like this is born from an author who’s experienced it up close, because truly dating in New York is like no other city (and clearly we wear that as a badge of honor).
It’s like a jungle out there, literally with no better way to put it but “fresh meat” arriving daily. There is an imbalance of power in New York dating, and although Arden never says this explicitly, I strongly suspect this played no small part in the genesis of her book.
So when it came time for us to shoot our new Arabesque range Arden’s powerful seductive persona came to mind, and I am truly honored to have worked with her. We’ll do another post sharing the images from this Spring Summer from the Arabesque luxe range, as well as what’s to come for Autumn Winter 2012. So without further ado, our interview with Arden Leigh author, seductress of the modern age
Layla: Tell us a little bit about yourself, how does one become a seduction coach? Like lingerie design it is not a field that career counselors have on their radar, so how did you come to be the master of seduction you are today?
Arden: The inspiration for me to become a seduction coach for women originally came from the men’s pickup artist community (you might remember the VH1 show The Pick-Up Artist, or Neil Strauss’s book The Game). I started following that community closely because I found their methods so much more practical and broken-down into actionable steps than the advice given to women. And I noticed handfuls of women trailing them at their events and book signings, asking what the girl equivalent of “game” would be, and despite their remarkable innovations for men, I never felt the pickup artists answered women in a satsifying manner. So I set out to study everything that they studied — evolutionary psychology, social dynamics, neuro-linguistic programming, conversational hypnosis, brand marketing, you name it — but I studied them with women’s goals in mind. And obviously I put everything I was learning to use in my own life to learn what worked and what didn’t. Then when I set out to write my book “The New Rules Of Attraction,” I was surprised at how easily it came together, and at how firmly I believed in everything I was writing. By the end of the book, it had almost become a manifesto.
Layla: Does a lot of pressure come with the title of seduction coach?
Arden: It did, at the beginning. When I got my book deal for The New Rules, I had just come out of a comfortable four-year relationship, and getting back into the dating pool made me worried about how closely I’d be scrutinized (i.e., if I got rejected by someone I wanted, would it make me look like a fraud). But I found my sea legs again pretty easily, and nowadays, whether single or partnered, I’m proud to live the lifestyle that I’ve created for myself. And I can attest that I practice everything I preach on a daily basis. I’ve also gotten really comfortable with crashing and burning, and so I’ll push things sometimes just to see what I can learn from them. Sometimes they actually work (like, for example, asking a guy out on Twitter whom you’ve never met in real life. Who would’ve guessed? We dated for two months). Or even when they don’t, the results are always interesting. Regardless, I’m way past the point of judging the value of my work by who’s into me and who’s not.
Layla: In your eyes what role does lingerie play in seduction?
Arden: Lingerie is a bit like creating suspense. You want your partner to wonder what he’s going to find when he undresses you. And it’s fun to hint at what might be there by showing off a bit of bra strap or decolletage, or letting a garter strap show when you cross your legs. I’ve also taken to wearing lingerie by itself out in the nightlife scene. It’s become a pretty normal thing for me to do. Some accuse me of seeking attention, but what I love about wearing lingerie by itself is that it is both glamorous and vulnerable at the same time. You’re dressed up in these beautiful garments, but you’re also still just in your underwear. And I think there’s always something sexy about a hint of vulnerability.
Layla: You mention in many interviews and in your book that dating has changed, what does that mean for today’s woman looking for love?
Arden: Dating has changed because our means of communication have changed. No one out there is really teaching us how to use things like social media and text messaging, and as I think we’ve all seen, both things can be very dangerous in the dating world when used improperly! If you remember that book The Rules that was published in the early nineties, they used to have rules in there like “He has to call you by Wednesday for a Saturday night date” or “Don’t call him just to hear his voice, call his answering machine while he’s at work and then hang up!” Obviously things like that don’t apply to our world anymore, since many of us work jobs outside the Monday through Friday 9-5 schedule, and since nobody has landlines, everybody has caller id, and most people don’t even listen to voicemail anymore. And the crazy thing is that this book is still on the shelves! I can’t tell you what dating was like in the early nineties because I was just out of kindergarten, so maybe it did work back then, but it certainly doesn’t apply to today. Moreover, guys of our generation act a lot different from guys of our parents’ generation. Most aren’t nearly the womanizers that men 20 years ago were, so that whole tactic of playing “hard to get” is pretty much obsolete, because most of the time you’ll just sit there and not get gotten. At the same time, however, acting clingy and desperate is still as ineffective as ever. So what women really need, and what I provide in The New Rules Of Attraction, is a proactive strategy to navigate the changing landscape of communication and to attract, compel, and hang onto the kind of guy they want.
Layla: Women today are more empowered than ever to make the initial approach, what do you think should a girl even plan the first date too?
Arden: Sure! I just wouldn’t call it a “date.” I like to encourage something that the men’s seduction community refers to as “plausible deniability,” which means that you haven’t really committed to whether your spending time together is romantic or just friendly in nature. There should be a little bit of mystery the first time you hang out, so that if a kiss happens, it’s charged with a certain exciting tension and not simply an awkward expectation. As far as planning the evening goes, I like to bring up in conversation something that I have an interest in doing (“Hey did you hear about this movie, etc etc?”) and then later ask them if they’d like to go with me (“It was great meeting you! Hey we should go see that movie sometime this week.”). That makes for a really smooth transition, and then you can escalate from there.
Layla: Give us our single or aspiring to seduce fans a reason they must buy your book?
Arden: Because life is way too short not to go after what (or who) you want.
Layla: let’s play a game of word association, what is the first word that comes to mind in response to the following:
L: outdoors - A: Game of Thrones (sorry, was just watching the first episode, and it had more outdoors than I’ve seen in years!)
L: diamond – A: David Yurman
L: thong – A: brief!
L: tent - A: …pitch?
L: water – A: fall
L: candle – A: love
L: fave comfort food – A: lobster rolls
L: fave way to relax – A: sex
L: fave beauty products – A: I wear Bare Minerals foundation and blush, use MAC for eyeshadows and lipstick, Fresh for eye creams/moisturizers and lip balm, Jonathan Product for all things hair, and Lush for bath bombs.
L: last book you read – A: The Last Living Slut by Roxana Shirazi, now reading Guts by Kristen Johnston and La Seduction: How the French Play the Game of Life by Elaine Sciolino